You’ve heard the expression “Food for thought”. I find in my clinical practice that most of the time people tend to feed their negative thought more than positive thought. The inner critic inside of us often takes the driver’s seat filling our brains with negative thoughts. “ I can’t. I’m not good enough. I am not enough. That’s not possible. I will never feel better. The worst is always going to happen. I am dumb. I am ugly. People don’t like me. I can’t lose the weight. I don’t deserve that job.” These negative voices are usually louder than the ones with positive affirmations that find strengths.
Therapy and the field of mental health, while it seems a subtle shift is occurring, is often still stigmatized. I often hear clients say: “I haven’t told my family I am in counseling”; “I don’t want to tell people I am talking to someone”; ”I don’t want them to think I’m crazy”; “They’ll think were headed for divorce”; “you must work with some crazy people”.
If you’ve been in therapy, you know, that it can seem a little one sided. Your therapist gets to hear a lot about you and your life, maybe even things that no one else knows, yet you don’t get too much about your therapist. Sure- they may share some things but not much usually. This is obviously for good reason. YOUR therapy is about YOU, not your therapist. Maintaining healthy boundaries and relational dynamic is important, essential even, in my opinion. That being said, this post is a little “Inside Out”, as I am sharing a little bit about myself (and obviously will connect it to feelings and therapy).